There have been plenty of successful interracial relationships over the last 30 years and the number of interracial marriages continues to be on the up each and every year. If you are looking for a serious interracial relationship and all your attempts like searching the internet have failed, here are a few handy tips that will help you immensely and ensure you are going by things the right way.
The most important thing is to let things happen naturally and not place any form of expectation on your date. Make sure you become part of your date’s overall world and do not be shy to share some of your world with them too by being very welcoming as well as open minded.
If you look at interracial dating as simply “tasting the waters” it will fail from the get go. You have to go in wholeheartedly and show that you are interested in the other person’s views, beliefs, opinions, hobbies, past, hopes, dreams and background. Sharing a few things yourself is very helpful too even though there might be a few or many cultural different between the two of you which fine. This is a great chance to learn a different way of thinking and looking at life through the eyes of someone else. Be curious and ask questions to expand your mind and always be willing to participate in any cultural events with them. At the end of the day, you will discover that going into an interracial relationship as a participant is so much better and wonderful compared to stepping into it as an experiment.
The mistake some people who are in an interracial relationship make is thinking that they are suddenly an expert in racial issues because they are dating outside team. If you and your partner have come through any ethnic or cultural hiccup, that is something to be proud of however, it does not make your relationship any different from millions out there interracial or not who have settled any issues they have and reached a common understanding.
Even if it might be true in some cases, it is not a good idea for anyone to make assumptions on the type of person they are in a relationship with based on what they heard about their heritage, culture, backgrounds and race. This is generalising no matter which angle you look at it and it is wrong, ensure you do not use phrases such as “I have heard in the past that your people do/have/always”. Each person is unique and different from their counterparts of the same race.
It is important to understand that you should not date someone to prove a point and it is not a must to adopt the person’s culture and customs, only take with you what you are comfortable with. Place to go together should not be a problem because many public places are comfortable with interracial couples and will not pay attention if you draw attention to yourselves.